The other day a woman sent me a post saying that her mother died last week and why hasn’t she heard from her which is what is prompting me to write this blog.

All throughout our lives, our soul travel out from the body from time to time. It’s most convenient for the soul to leave at night when our bodies are sleeping, but there are often times when the soul needs to leave during the day. The word we use for that is daydreaming. Our body goes on hold or pause for a few seconds and then our consciousness comes back.

The reason I mention that is because leaving the body is nothing new to the soul, but what is new is that the silver cord that connects the body to the soul is now severed at the time of death and we no longer have a body to come back to. There are stages we go through in dying and we the living need to understand that so that when our loved ones die, we know they are going through a process and can’t come back to take care of us in our grief.

Sometimes the soul doesn’t wait for the body to completely shut down. It’s not unusual for the soul to choose to leave earlier. You can feel that their personality has left when that happens. When my dad passed, he left a full 24 hours before his heart finally stopped beating. There are have been many times when I’ve gone into the room of someone that is dying and their soul is standing or sitting somewhere in the room waiting and listening to the conversations of the people in the room. When the soul feels ready, that when it goes into the tunnel. The tunnel is like a waiting area. There are many souls in there with flowers and balloons waiting for their loved one who is dying that day. They want to greet them and guide them over to the other side. The white light that we all hear about is real and it’s like a porch light on the entrance into heaven. It’s extremely bright so that everyone can find it.

Once over to the other side, there may be a group of your deceased loved ones welcoming you home, or you may simply be greeted by an angel or greeter. Your loved ones know which way you prefer. The next few days are very private. Our life has changed. Our body was heavy, our soul weighs between 2-6 ounces. You have shed your heavy coat of a physical body. You are experiencing your own grief. The loss of your earthly life. You are also busy clearing the heavy earth energy. We rest and this clearing process can take up to a week if not longer. Everyone is different. We all go through our dying process that is suited for us. The timing coincides well with our funerals because they often take place a week after the death and the soul has come through quite a process by then and can and usually does attend its own funeral. It’s a gathering of friends and family and many times, our other deceased loved ones attend the funeral with them, to be supportive but also to see everyone again.

When a loved one dies and we don’t feel them right away, they are going through quite a process and we need to let them be. Don’t pull on them, ask them to come and comfort you. They have moved to a new neighborhood so to speak and they need time to adjust to all of the newness of their new life.

They will come when they can handle their own grief along with your grief and that takes time. You can read so much more about this in a few of my books. Echoes of the Soul, What Happens When We Die and my latest book, How To Live A Happily Ever After Life.