Robin Williams, Depression and Grief
So many of us have been struck by the death of Robin Williams and I’d like to share my thoughts about his passing. I was feeling very very sad on Monday and Tuesday after hearing the news not so much because he had died, but because of the tremendous amount of pain he must have been in to take the measures he did to ensure his suicide would be complete.That level of depression broke my heart to know he was in that much pain.
For those of you who have read my books, you know I’ve been labeled manic depressive/bi polar because of the very serious bouts of depression I’ve experienced throughout my life. I’ve read some of nasty comments on Facebook that people are making about his death and I’m shocked by people’s insensitivity. Obviously people’s cruelty is coming from lack of understanding and compassion and that too makes me very sad. I forget that people can be so self centered and judgemental. I pray that the family be protected from the negativity and yet feel all the prayers and positive energy being sent to them.
I checked in on his soul and contrary to popular belief, he is not “free” like so many people are saying. Once again religion has done us a dis-service by not telling us that depression is in the soul, not just the physical body and this is something people have got to understand. When we commit suicide to end our misery, our misery goes with us. IT IS IN THE SOUL. I can’t count the number of souls I’ve checked in on after suicide to see how they are doing only to see how shocked they are that they are still depressed. Deep depression, versus garden variety depression, takes a lot of work to heal. We need to keep at it until our soul is no longer suffering from it. Anti-depressants can help the physical body, but for someone who’s soul came into this lifetime to heal their depression, there’s always a lingering sadness even on medication.
What causes that deep depression in the soul? Regrets, unfinished business, guilt, shame, grief from past lives that never healed. We are under the mis-guided idea that if we end a life with pain, death will erase that pain, but it doesn’t. Life is an on going opportunity for us to heal our pain and for most of us, it can take lifetimes. Who knows what was causing Mr. Williams’ deep pain. It’s none of our business.
The good news is that there are tons of wonderful caregivers, therapists, doctors, on the other side who can help his soul to heal. If he couldn’t find it here, there’s a great chance he can find what he needs on the other side. When I saw him on the other side, he was in a room with three Elders, helping him cope with his death.They were protecting him from crowds of people that wanted to welcome him home.
Remorse is a bitter pill that all suicide people have to deal with. As we come to and realize our death was accomplished, then it hits us that we’ve caused alot of pain for those still living and that remorse just adds to the situation.
There is something we can do for him on this side. Send him lots of love. Visualize him wrapped in a blanket of white light. He’s fragile right now and will be for awhile. There’s no pressure on the other side to “get over it.” The care givers on the other side understand depression and don’t treat it lightly like we do here. They talk about it openly and don’t treat it like a mental illness.
Before I end, I’d like to add a piece here about severely depressed people. If you are a friend or family member of someone who is labeled bi-polar or manic depressive, please don’t say things like “get over it” or “be grateful for all that you’ve got.” People that are severely depressed feel NO HOPE. NONE. ZERO. ZIP.NADA. No matter how much you try to make them laugh or guilt them for being sad, the best thing you can do for them is to encourage them to get help. Anti-depressants are fine, they can be very helpful, but the person still needs to address that deep sadness and heal it. Suicide seems like a great solution to all that pain, but in the end, it’s not. If you are the person who is depressed, fight for yourself. Find the help you need. Don’t just rely on anti-depressants. Take them if they help the physical body, but keep on the journey of getting the help that you need.
Robin Williams has done us a great service. He brought us great comedy while he was alive and brought a profound awareness to the forefront of depression, addictions and suicide in his death. God Bless you Robin Williams.