I Remember Now ~ The Love We Came From ~ Pastor Tim Tengblad Post 76

Even though I’m retired from my many years as a Lutheran Pastor, I still officiate at an occasional memorial service. The local funeral home calls me when they know they’re working with a family that describes themselves as “spiritual but not religious.”

I’m most comfortable with the spiritual but not religious space these days. There isn’t the pressure or the expectations to do it “right.” I don’t feel like I have to say certain things and use the “right” language. I don’t have to talk about believing the right things about Jesus so the deceased or everyone there can get into heaven.

So what do I talk about at these memorials? I speak of the essence of Jesus’ teachings. I speak of love. Only love.

I remind everyone that we are eternal souls, and our souls are here to grow into the love we came from, through the experiences we have as humans. When the physical body dies, the soul returns to the love it came from (its Home), and the journey of growth into love continues…

This is a universal truth for everyone. Everyone is included. It doesn’t matter what anyone believes or doesn’t believe. It’s true, whether anyone there is religious or not.

It’s fun watching the people react. I introduce myself as “Pastor Tim Tengblad, a retired Lutheran Pastor” at the Welcome, and I can see the expectations forming in people’s minds of what I’m going to say or do. And then I start talking, and people are surprised. The looks on their faces seem to say, “these aren’t the things we usually hear.” There are always a handful of people who are nodding their heads with a smile on their face.

A woman came up to me after a memorial service and said, “I’m not a Christian, or religious, and this is the first time I’ve ever felt included. Thank you.”

The last service I officiated was for a man who was described as an agnostic. His wife asked about what I would be saying at the service. I told her what I tell everyone. “I speak of love. Only love. And that we’re all here to grow into the  love we came from.” She said, “Oh! I like that!”

I believe there’s a reason she liked it. Her soul innately recognized its truth. She came from love and is love. She was hearing a word from Home, and she was remembering.

We all know that growing into the love we came from is often a challenge. We’ve got this other part of us, our ego, that isn’t interested in love. Because the ego sees only the illusion of separation between us and God, between us and everyone and everything around us, it lives in fear. We aren’t our best Self when we’re afraid, insecure, or feel we lack something. We make poor decisions and act out in ways that are harmful to ourselves and those around us.

I saw a greeting card recently that said, “I love that when I’m with you, I don’t have to pretend I’m a nice person. That sh*t’s exhausting.” If you find this funny, as I did, it’s funny because you know it’s true. Sometimes we don’t feel like being nice, and it is exhausting to feel like you should be all the time. We love that friend that we can just relax with and be whatever our whole and honest self is at the moment. That’s what love does. It accepts what is.

If we can do it for a friend, why can’t we be our own best friend and love ourselves at those times we don’t even want to pretend we’re a nice person? We’ll grow stronger when we ask ourselves in those moments when we don’t feel like being loving, “Where’s the resistance coming from?” Maybe we’re exhausted, or something within us is wounded and needs our love. Like weight training, the resistance will make us stronger.

You don’t have to pretend to be a nice person. You inherently are, and your humanity will help you strengthen those love muscles for yourself and others.  It will help you grow into the love you came from.

You are Love,

Pastor Tim Tengblad

I welcome your comments, questions, and stories.  timtengblad@comcast.net





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