Being True to Ourselves, Tough Stuff
Forty-two years ago, I had the “opportunity” to marry a man I really loved but my inner voice was yelling loud and clear NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. He was everything I thought I wanted. Handsome, funny, very smart, and the “opportunity” part was that we had a baby on the way!!!!
There in front of me was the life I thought I really wanted and yet, my inner voice, the voice I had come to trust with all my life decisions, was telling me NO.
If you’ve read my books, you know how the story turned out. I placed our son for adoption and searched for him when he was twenty-four which turned out to be a huge blessing for all of us.
But that’s not what I’m blogging about today.
I’m blogging about one of my favorite subjects which is intuition, but this time from the perspective of how to live by your inner voice when you have a significant other in your life.
Talk about “opportunities” constantly presenting themselves to us.
My son’s father is still in my life. He’s still handsome, still very funny, has gotten smarter over the years AND we have a great relationship. But the area that’s tough is when he gives me guidance (he’s got strong opinions) and my inner voice has a completely different opinion. I’ve learned to look at this as an “opportunity” to be true to the path I came here to walk and learn how to speak up for what’s right for me……………and that has been one tough life lesson.
What brought all of this up is that I’ve had several conversations with people lately, men and women, who are feeling guided to do one thing, but their significant other wants them to do something else. Bottom line is, do you keep peace in the family or be true to the voice of God giving you guidance for your highest good. Many people reading this who are not in a relationship might say the answer is a no brainer, but in this world, where we have opinions coming at us from all directions, it can be quite challenging to live by our inner voice.
Something I’ve learned from my ex is that he gets frustrated with me when the choices I make seem stupid, un-conventional, or just plain silly, but when he watches it play out, he’s always ended up respecting the decision I went with.
If you’ve got someone in your life who doesn’t understand your need to live by your inner voice, my heart goes out to you. I know it’s a tough journey, but if you can find a way to keep peace in the family and still live by that still small voice within, the rewards are so well worth it.
Honor their opinions because it comes from their love for you, but if it helps you to know which voice to listen to, remember that the still small voice within loves you just as much, if not more and knows the bigger plan, knows what’s coming and knows what the best choices are for you. It’s really about us learning how to be true to ourselves and the path we came here to follow.
As always, I wish you the very best on your journey,