I have a friend that’s transgender and he fascinates me. He is a handsome man during the week and goes about his business as a shop owner, father and grandfather.
On the week-ends he transforms into an attractive female. He grew up with a strict, military father and always struggled with feeling female rather than male. He lived the life of a man and tried denying the female side of him that was so prevalent. He was married. Farmed the land and taught high school shop class. He’s enjoyed the male roles in his life.
But internally he yearns to live the life of his female self full time.
Sometimes I listen to him talk and he’s so masculine. So knowledgeable in the “man department.” And yet, when I see his female side all dressed up and expressing her femininity, I’m so impressed with how well he/she is able to juggle both parts of himself with grace and dignity.
Yesterday I chatted with her briefly before she left to get her hair cut and it seemed oddly normal to be talking to this woman about hair products and her pretty outfit. Last week she and I had an interesting discussion about men and her surprise at how aggressive they can be. Is he gay? No. He’s attracted to women and she isn’t interested in looking for a relationship right now.
Some of you might be wondering why I’m blogging about this and it’s because I had a very interesting realization yesterday after my friend left for her hair appointment.
I was in my garden talking to God about the level of courage it must take for him/her to be true to their self and thoughts streamed into my head about God being a complete balance of male and female and that my friend is actually demonstrating what it means to embrace and fully live both sides of ourselves.
I don’t think our world is ready for all of us to be outwardly embracing both our masculine and feminine side like my friend is, but I do know that one of the major goals of our souls is to be completely balanced when we finish our incarnations.
So maybe what this blog is about is honoring both sides of ourselves. Living from the male side which is practical, intellectual, strong, powerful and decisive and living from the female side which is creative, passionate, intuitive, spiritual, nurturing, emotional.
The right side of your body signifies the male side and the left side is female.
Pay attention to where most of your physical problems are. Right side or left? If you’re having alot of right side problems and pain, it could be that the male side of you is very overworked and needs some support, love and nurturing from your female side. And vice versa. If your body pain is mainly on the left side, it could mean the female side is feeling alone, abandoned ooverwhelmed and needs more support from the male side of yourself.
Listen to the messages from your body and learn to live from both parts. Nurture your mind and support your intuition. Step into your power with your creativity. Honor the intellect and honor the emotions. Everything is a part of you.
I’m not sure where else to go with all of this other than to say that I hope whenever I look at my dear brave friend, I will remember that my soul is striving to honor both parts of myself also and that I can do that without having to go through the tough challenges she faces.
I’m one of these people that’s always trying to put the pieces to the big jigsaw puzzle of life together…………..and I feel like I just received some valuable pieces and of course wanted to share them with you.
Thanks for listening.
Till next time…
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